When dating someone whos separated
The real concern was whether this guy needed time and space after the demise of his marriage. Here are the three points I’d like you to take away from this blog post: A person who hides his separation online isn’t necessarily a bad person.
He’s doing what’s practical not to scare people off.
The exact quote was “if you’ve mourned, if you’ve healed, if you’ve made peace — then you’re ready whenever you say you’re ready.”Allow me to correct myself. I have a client who went out with a man who was separated. On the other hand, you’ve heard tales of men who went seamlessly from one relationship to another without a break.
It wasn’t a question of whether he and his wife were going to divorce — the relationship was toxic, the lawyers were in place, it was definitely over. They were well-matched and perfectly adorable together. You can listen to all these stories, but they won’t inform YOUR situation.
I am divorced and have been for two years and am of the opinion that there is too much other stuff going on in one’s life during a divorce to date, as well.
But, most likely, because he’s still emotionally reeling from the death of his relationship. It’s not that he didn’t care about her; it’s that he wasn’t ready for another commitment so soon after declaring his bachelorhood….Do you advise your clients to take the date or run as quick as possible?Any advice would be wonderful- thanks in advance for your response!Dear Sara, We all make judgments based on our own experience.You had too much going on during your divorce to possibly consider dating. This same script, I’m reminded, played out in the life of one of my favorite clients who fell in love with a separated man.
If he and his wife are trying to reconcile, she will likely view you as a threat and may behave hostilely toward you.