Overweight men and dating
Although there was a correlation in time between the weight loss and my burgeoning love life, the weight loss was just the catalyst for something a lot bigger – the change in how I felt about myself.
When I lost weight, for the first time in a long time I was happy, and therefore morphed into a guy that women actually wanted to be around. According to my girlfriend, I am a more attractive man now simply because I am confident.
I have also gained muscle – a bodily development that previously was as foreign to me as the female menstrual cycle.
Compared to my slouched shouldered, big bellied former self, I’m not exactly a delicious piece of man meat.
Reflecting on how far I’ve come, I know she’s right, and that we would’ve been together from the start if I were as confident then as I am now.
Having confidence gave me the freedom to be a better version of myself.
I’ve shed a lot of body fat over the last nine months.Fast track 5 months, when we finally did get it together, I realized it wasn’t about that at all.The reason I had more ‘luck’ with women after losing weight was not the hypothesis that I had clung on to for so many years – that women don’t like fat men.I would lay on the couch at night and unenthusiastically swipe on Tinder. I didn’t exercise much and only ever half-heartedly.No effort was made with my appearance – I dressed like a slob and my patchy beard was a crime against facial hair.
The other parts of me were enhanced – or at least they started to be conveyed more authentically to others.