Men dating female friends
For me it's the privacy (he calls it privacy, I call it secrecy).I tell him I can give him privacy in any other aspect of life (more or less) but his relationship with other women is not an area I think it's appropriate. He says he doesn't see it as disrespectful because he sees those relationships as so far removed from me that they don't effect me in any way. Would you find your spouse's private relationship with single members of the opposite sex disrespectful? What do you think would happen if you had a friendship with another man, any man, single or otherwise?What do you think your husband would say if you asked for privacy in order to read an IM or an email message? you have no control over what he chooses to do) -- having relationships with other women (whatever that relationship is), BUT, he doesn't get to choose the "effect" of that action.I work in a a HIGHLY male dominated profession and have lots and lots of male colleagues single and married. YOU are the one who gets to say whether or not it is affecting you -- they are your feelings you are talking about.If you KNOW that your marriage is missing tenderness and affection, and he is getting texts he doesn't want you to see, that's a REALLY bad sign.I've been exactly where you are and am now getting the divorce. Yeah, we've certainly got our issues right now, but I suppose I was digressing because the issue on my mind right now is these friendships.I do see the flirtatious fun in the relationships he has with these women, though, and it does bother me. What do you think of married men and single women as friends? If it just happens once in a blue moon, that is one thing.
We've been married for almost 13 years and much of the tenderness and affection has left our marriage. If your husband seems to be going out of his way to befriend single women, that's a red flag.
Relationships, yes, but there should be no need to keep it so quiet.
I keep in pretty close touch with a couple of ex-boyfriends, even, but I make damn sure my husband knows all about it.
We should get a drink some time." She answered, "What would your wife say? And I suddenly realized how wildly inappropriate it was for my husband to start dating. Shirley Glass's "Not 'Just Friends'" which outlines how easily men fall into affairs with their close female friends.
He was angry with me for saying that, as he had so many female friends, but he soon agreed that it was disrespectful to go out with his single female friends. OP, my ex bitched and moaned about his privacy too. OP, Please re-read what you wrote above: He says he doesn't see it as disrespectful because he sees those relationships as so far removed from me that they don't effect me in any way.
He very pointedly avoided checking it while I was there and asked for 'privacy please' so he could check it. I am very sorry for you and wish you the strength you'll need to confront what I suspect you already know. I am very sorry for you and wish you the strength you'll need to confront what I suspect you already know. Your train of thought lost me -- "The content of the IM was not the issue ..." BUT, yes, it was, because he asked to take it in private so you couldn't SEE the content and that bothered you. As a married man I can tell you if I got an IM from a 'single lady friend' and then turned to my wife and said "privacy please" I would (quite rightly) be slugged in the face to the refrain "privacy my ass".